We can see physical boundaries everywhere in life: this is my country, this is my house, this is my side of the bed, that’s my vibrator. You get the idea, but we never really talk about our spiritual boundaries, our energetic boundaries or what I like to think of as our little “cocoon”. Heck, most of us didn’t even know that this space existed, let alone that we are in control of this space. That’s where the power lies.
In this post, we are going to learn what your spiritual boundary is and how to create one. So let’s get started.
Before doing this work, I had no concept of boundaries-- heck I’m Italian, we all function and live in a giant bowl of soup. Minestrone soup. We feel, sense, and predict most people and most things that orbit around us. The only time I think anyone had a boundary in my family was if they were pissed off. Then all walls were up and no one was getting in -- or out. Until dinner time, because well, you know, then we’re all in our happy place... and who wants to waste an incredible meal in a shitty mood?!
In some ways living this way feels very fulfilling because you are never alone, but that’s not always a good thing. It was especially satisfying when everyone was hanging out, having a good time - laughing, telling jokes, playing cards, gossiping, and of course, planning our next meal.
But like the tide of life, it’s not always high. You see, the thing is, when you're all open and acting as part of one big soup, everyone feels it when one of them goes down -- when someone starts to sink to the bottom of the bowl. And that’s where things get ugly. No one likes to be pulled down from their happy place. This is when creating healthy energetic spiritual boundaries can really help your own emotional state. In fact, I find it even more powerful and fulfilling. Because you can finally start to be yourself and be in the middle of this bowl of soup. Like a nice chunk of potato or a hearty carrot. There’s no need to end up as much on the bottom. We want to be more like minestrone and less like split peas… Alright, enough with the soup metaphors!
Take a moment to watch my video here about Boundaries You Didn’t Know You Needed.. I share tips as well as my experiences in a short video. (Just in case your get tired of reading 🙂
So how do we create a spiritual boundary and maintain our autonomy?
First, you want to become familiar with our own energy.
So sit down, focus on your breath and take your time here.
Relax and release any tension in and around your body. Meditating is best for this so you can become familiar with your own frequency. You need to recognize normal when you feel it so you can hang on to it. Notice any sensation around you. If your eyes are closed you may see a frequency, or feel a tingling. Now take a quick scan to see if anyone’s energy is in your field.
Start from the bottoms of your feet moving along your spine checking in with each chakra.
Now, if you notice other people's energy in there, you want to purge that.
I’ll check in with my Root chakra which is at the base of my spine between my legs. As I bring my consciousness into this space I look around to see what pops up, again no judgement and don’t worry about if this is real or just my imagination. Let’s say I get a vision of my neighbour between my legs (Wait, that was my dream last night) They're not supposed to be there! To purge this energy, I can imagine that she, or he, is the color grey and visualize this grey color leaving my energetic field.
Now, I repeat this process with all my chakras.
Once I’m clear, once I start to feel a little lighter and brighter… I bring in more of my own energy.
Again I do this by imagining white light coming in through the top of my head until I feel full and bright. I imagine my aura, my cocoon, as a beautiful golden container. Now, I create an item just outside of my field so I can visualize where my energy ends and someone else's begins…
I like to think of it as a boundary instead of protection because believing I need protection makes me feel like I should be worried about people intentionally trying to hurt me. When I create a strong boundary, I can do it without the fear. I find it’s better than “protection”.
So how did that process feel?
Knowing these boundaries allows you to keep unwanted energies at an arm’s length.
It’s the energy equivalent of saying, “no” which is so hard for some of us to do. When you establish this spiritual boundary it allows you to not get sucked up in gossip, or a friend’s judgey side, or even when the world around you feels very negative. This awareness of your boundary allows you to keep this out and let you have a more fulfilling life experience.
These are just some tips I use to start to activate my spiritual boundaries, but if you want a guided meditation and worksheet to help you to purge old energy, you can find that information on my website and remember all of these are free to anyone with a mystical membership. IF you are not a member, and you should be, there are still free ones for you to try so please check it out.
I hope these tips can start to help you feel safe and cozy in your own energy cocoon.
Remember you are not your thoughts, your emotions, or your body. You are light!
Until next time,
I’m Marisa Grieco, Your mystical guide.