How To Remove Toxic Energetic Cords

Understand how we connect to people energetically and when we may need to stop.
By: 
Marisa Grieco
September 17, 2021

You might have heard me talking about cords or tentacles in my other blogs. I’m not talking about power cords, or octopus, octupses? Octopies? Who knows how to spell them. No, I’m referring to the way we tap into each other, energetically. This is very natural, and we do it all the time. In fact, this is how some of us get our information about each other.

As a mom, I can easily tap into my daughters and experience how they are feeling. Some of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. But the problems begin when you forget to take your cords out of someone and return to your own center. Or, you don’t realize that you have even been corded!

This is where shit goes wrong.

In this blog, we’re going to learn how to identify these leftover cords and how to release them before they start hurting and depleting your own energetic field.


Have you ever had the experience where you are just chillin’ and suddenly you get this surge of energy or a surge of pain out of nowhere? This is often followed by a strong emotion. Well, you’re not crazy, and once you identify it’s not a heart attack, it may be that someone just plugged into your energy field or they just activated the cord that was already tethered to you. I see this all the time with my clients who are stuck in controlling relationships either with a loved one or a family member.

Now before you get your panties in a knot, I want you to know that these cords are simply invisible strands of energy that connect you to other people, places, and things.  These cords are not part of your own conscious mind but exist at the subconscious and unconscious levels.

How to Identify Energetic Cords

You can’t see them with your physical eyes, obviously, but they affect your life just the same. So, if you’re very sympathetic towards people, you’re likely cording them all the time. The problem is that when you do this, you may feel responsible for their needs. You are drawn into their concerns, and your energy will start to match theirs. This can really make you feel confused and even spun out because you’re picking up someone else’s life lessons, messages, and emotions.

And they won’t make any sense to you because they’re not yours!

You have no context for them, but they feel real just the same. That’s why you want to gently remove them once you get the information you were looking for. Don’t just walk away when you’re still plugged in!

Now some cords are positive and feel good. It’s the way we connect with our loved ones.

If you are in a romantic relationship with someone you may find that you are connected to the heart and sacral chakras.

You know, love and sex.

A parent may cord their children in their root chakra to help them survive. Even your pets can cord you. Letting you know when they’re hungry, or it’s time for you to come home and let them out.

Mine does it at two in the morning. I might buy a box of Depends for the damn dog. 

But it’s when these cords become sticky, tangled, and filled with negative intent, that they can start to hurt you. They make you feel depleted, confused, even controlled. But understand, no one can put a cord into your field without your consent.

This is the hard part to understand.

At some level, you are willing to give them permission. If it feels negative and heavy, and you let it happen, it’s probably tied to an old program or belief that you are holding on to. For example, if you’re letting your partner control you, then you may be fulfilling an old belief that loved ones are allowed to do this. Maybe this was an agreement you made with one of your parents or you saw them make this agreement with each other. Jump to your current self and you may find out that you accepted this cord from your partner because of this old belief system.

The farther you travel on your healing journey, the more you’ll realize that you no longer want some of these cords in your field, especially if they are making you feel sick, heavy, and tired.

An Important Tip

We can’t just cut these cords because, in the energetic realm, you’ll start to look like a wounded octopus with all these tentacles flailing about your field leaking your vital energy. Instead, we want to gently retract the cords keeping your energy intact.

So how do we do this? I like to use visualization when I’m meditating to clear these cords out of my energy. Visualizations are very powerful in self-healing. I set my intention to "de-cord" myself from others whenever I feel drained and depleted.

I want to call back all my energy clean and clear. 

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When I do this, sometimes a person’s face pops up into my mind’s eye. I take this as a sign that this person has a cord in me. If it feels good, I leave it in. If not, I remove it. If no one pops up, I often find a cord by scanning my body along my chakras using my hand.

People say that the first five chakras are the ones that get corded the most. That makes sense because they’re connected to your survival, sexual energy, power, love, and self-expression.

If you find that you have problems with your personal boundaries, that may mean that your eighth chakra has been corded by someone.

Anyway, back to the de-cording.

How to Find a Cord

While I’m slowly running my hands along my chakras, I’m looking for any sensation of temperature differences.  If I feel this, it tells me I have some work to do - at that point. It might not be a temperature change. It can also feel like a denseness or even a tingle in your hand. This tells me I found a cord.

Now the cord can feel thick and coarse or thin and wispy, it doesn’t matter-- but like roots from a tree, some can be deep and tricky to remove.

Removing Energetic Cords Marisa Grieco

How to Remove the Cord

Now, remember you’re not cutting it or yanking it out. Instead, energetically begin to visualize twisting the cord at the level of your skin, almost playing with, twirling it, moving it from side to side, giving it room to slip out, tugging ever so gently when you feel it start to give.

Once it slides out, I visualize tying a knot at the end of the cord and sending it back to its owner. Then I place my hand over the spot where the cord once was and I visualize gold light soothing and healing the wound.

Sometimes it can be tougher than that to remove a cord. If you’re having trouble I have more tips and exercises in my membership that can help you, so feel free to head over there.

You Can Learn A Lot About Your Relationships

Now depending on which chakra has been corded, it can tell you a lot about your relationship with this person. If someone is not being authentically loving in a relationship, you may find that the energetic cord goes into the heart chakra down along the spine and is grounded in your solar plexus.

Your power center.

This is someone that manipulates love and power, and I see this a lot with my clients. The partner strengthens the cord by saying things like, “if you do this or act this way I will love you”. You may even feel your stomach tighten when they are around you.

I’ve seen cords enter one place and go all the way to your sacral chakra cutting off your creativity or blocking your sexual energy.

Once again, these are just a few examples and tips to open up your awareness of the energetic cords. If you would like to know more check out my guided meditations to help you, and maybe some worksheets too. I hope some of this makes you realize you are so much more than your physical body and that all those feelings and messages that you’re picking up, may not even be yours.

Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco Your Mystical Guide

About the Author:

Marisa Grieco is the creator of Your Mystical Guide and host of a popular Youtube show about energy healing, mindfulness, and the path to a better life. Her work focuses on identifying and releasing old programs that prevent us from reaching our true potential
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