Working on your self-esteem is vital for the serenity of your mind. It is widely proven that with higher self-esteem, we become resilient to threats against our confidence. High self-confidence makes emotional wounds less painful, making peace with existing problems much more manageable. You may have a busy schedule that leaves your mental peace vulnerable to doubts, insecurity, anxiety, feeling of rejection, failure, and many more. Building your confidence will help you tackle all problems in the way of your mental stability.
Very often, it is not in our control, and our mind gets so lost that it experiences emotional damage. While things may feel hopeless and lost, it does not have to remain that way. This article will provide you with ways to overcome that emotional damage and build confidence so that you may thrive in life. This will help you recover from a shattering incident that may have taken a toll on you.
If you reside in the UK, finding UK therapists can help you maneuver through and unravel the weaves of doubt and the feelings that have your lack of confidence tangled. It's also important to want to help yourself, and here are a few ways you can do so.
It is a common phenomenon that when we feel bad about any aspect of ourselves, we tend to deter compliments that are said in good faith. This is because we may feel undeserving of them, making us uncomfortable. To work against this, we must learn to accept and appreciate compliments. At first, it won't be easy to agree with after considering we believe quite the opposite. But once we understand the sincerity of the exchange, we will slowly begin to see the truth in their words.
Do not avoid them; let the compliments and praises come to you and believe they can apply to you. When you allow this to happen, you gain greater confidence and start to better understand your strengths and positive, charming aspects of yourself.
We are so quick to criticize our actions and find faults in ourselves when we forget to realize how often we are friendly and compassionate to ourselves. When do we ever praise ourselves for completing a difficult task, feeling proud and accomplished?
To introduce self-compassion into your lifestyle, you must start by replacing self-criticism and integrating compassion. One of the best ways is to think about what you would advise your friend or comfort them if they were in the same situation. Most times, if not all, we tend to be more empathetic towards others' feelings than ourselves.
Since you doubt yourself, the solution is to convince your brain that you are capable. When you fail at a task, you tend to reconsider your self-worth. This is where succeeding at a task can have the opposite effect and give you that feeling of triumph you need. After being subjected to emotional damage, your brain deserves to know that it has the potential and capability to grow and strengthen.
The first step to achieving that feeling of accomplishment is to break down big goals that may feel burdensome into small, manageable tasks. You start gaining confidence and believing in your strength when you succeed step by step. Additionally, you will be able to organize your tasks better.
Revisit art, explore the outdoors, get into sports, learn to create music, or get involved with any activity that will make you feel inspired and rejuvenated. Spending time with loved ones and pets are more activities to make you feel determined and stimulated.
When you reconnect with the things you love doing, it serves as a temporary escape from your emotional wounds and the gloominess of life. It gives you a massive boost in confidence and begins to make you passionate about good things. This can help distract you from your toxic thoughts.
We tend to be so supportive and kind towards our companions and loved ones that we forget to be kind to ourselves. That is why you must understand that your emotions matter too. Motivate yourself and be considerate of yourself at all times. It would be best to do this when you are in an especially destructive emotional spot. You must provide affirmations to yourself, treat yourself to good food, movies, tea, hot baths, and take a trip down memory lane to all your happy memories.
Your self-esteem is crucial for you to feel peace and serenity. However, at times in our life, we may be subjected to a situation or event that can cause us emotional damage. In such a situation, we must regain our self-confidence. This is where we recommend that you get therapy if you are in such a case. Alternatively, you can undertake specific techniques and tips that can allow you to heal from these situations. We have looked at ways to help you recover from emotional damage. We are confident that implementing them in your life will lead to positive results for you. Thank you for reading!
I believe that we are all-natural healers and innately know what to do. When I was little and got hurt, and I don’t mean from a slipper or a spoon-wink - no, if I fell or even if my ego got hurt, my Nonna Pasqualina knew precisely what to do. In this post, I will share some simple Italian “reiki” tips so you can see how easy it is and how you’ve probably been doing it your whole life and didn’t even know it. So, let’s get started.
When I was about four years old, I was in my Nonna’s dining room, playing like any curious kid inside their grandparent’s house. I shuffled over to the window and began exploring a piece of wood propping the window open. Suddenly, the window came crashing down and slammed my little hand.
Don't feel like reading? Check out my video on the subject.
Of course, I screamed. I screamed like someone had just stolen my last biscotti and ate it before I could knock their lights out. Hearing this scream, my Nonna sprinted into the room to see who had been killed. She bent down, took my hand in hers, yelled for someone to watch the stove, and proceeded to make me feel better.
Of course, I screamed. I screamed like someone had just stolen my last biscotti and ate it before I could knock their lights out. Hearing this scream, my Nonna sprinted into the room to see who had been killed.
She bent down, took my hand in hers, yelled for someone to watch the stove, and proceeded to make me feel better.
It wasn’t until years later, when I was studying to become a reiki master, that I realized, “Holy crap, my Nonna was a natural Reiki Master!”
Walk with me here, and I’ll explain.
Then she told me not to do that again, or she would break the other hand.
I mean, come on! This woman had it down.
Now, if you want to learn Reiki's proper meanings, hand symbols, and principles, I’m sure you can Google it.
Or you can become a mystical member, where I walk you through the process in a fun way. I’ve also put together printable worksheets to help you during your healing sessions.
I hope this post reminds you to have some fun on your spiritual journey, and you would be surprised at how much you already know.
Start to trust your gifts and abilities. It’s all inside of you!!
Remember, you are not your body. You are not your thoughts. And you are not your emotions.
You are light, so be bright.!!
Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco, Your Mystical guide.
Getting cranky and feeling like s&%! seems to be my mood lately. I don’t know if it’s because of the holiday season and I’m unconsciously triggered by that, or I’m just getting overwhelmed with all the things I think I’m supposed to do, especially with my new membership site. There is so much to do! If you’ve been feeling like crap lately.
It's time to fix it.
I know, why am I not taking my own advice -- drinking some of my own medicine? Because I don’t want to! I’m riding that wave of self-pity, right into Cape Depression and I like it!
That’s how I feel, but that’s not what I’m gonna do.
I'm gonna take my own advice and then share what I did to shake off this shit-storm. I know some of you have been feeling this same way, so, as your Mystical Guide, I am gonna take my own advice and then report back to you.
Take a moment to watch my video version of this blog.
So lately, I've been feeling like my old emotions and my old programs have been coming up pretty intensely. I can feel my body searching to reinforce these emotions. I know I'm just one thought away, and then it's a descent into hell for me and my family.
But, I have to remind myself, this is all just a chemical process within my body that is causing these feelings and I have the superpower to change it!!
I just have to do it.
One thing I'm gonna do is just get up and get moving. I know it’s hard, sitting on the couch with a huge plate of pasta and another season of Criminal Minds in front of me. Instead, I’m gonna turn on my favorite song and dance, or maybe go on a walk with purpose.
I just gotta get the energy moving.
Why? Because this is going to help me to start producing more serotonin in my body and helps keep that depressing feeling at bay. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter, think of it as a chemical messenger, that can help promote me getting out of my shitty mood. I know..science, huh?
On top of that, I’m gonna follow it up with my little mantra:
I am light, I am love, I am whole.
I'll keep repeating this until it sinks in. Instead of letting those crappy thoughts roll around in my noggin, or when I hear them start, I’ll go straight to this mantra. I recommend giving it a try.
This action helps me to wake up in the present moment, so I don't fall into the trance of being my body, my emotions, and my past. You know, the programs of the third dimension.
Now, if all that is still not working, I will either sit by a window or go outside and get some sunlight for at least 15mins which is pretty easy in Southern California.
Now, if all that is still not working, I will either sit by a window or go outside and get some sunlight for at least 15mins which is pretty easy in Southern California. If you live in a rainy climate and have a hard time getting outside, try sitting next to bright light and imagine that you're on a beach somewhere.
I don’t usually reach for supplements, but I’ve been told that 5 HTP, or St. John’s wort, is pretty good. But ask your healthcare provider first. I know St John’s gives my husband headaches. (Amongst other things 🙂
Getting a massage is another one that works and something I will definitely try.
These activities really help to increase serotonin and dopamine in your body, so it’s a double hit. Besides, who needs encouragement to get a massage? This also helps to decrease cortisol which is a hormone your body produces when you're stressed.
So that’s what I’m gonna do to try and get out of my mood.
If you are feeling the same way, I hope this helps you to realize that you're not alone, we all feel like a bag of turds at times. It’s just a matter of getting yourself out and moving.
I know you can do it!!
If you need help or want a support group, come and join my mystical circle. I’m gonna report all of my results there so pop over and share how you did.
Remember, your not your body
Your not your thoughts
Your not your emotions
You are light, so get shiny
Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco, Your mystical guide.
Wait! Before you go. Check out my daughter's project: The It Girl Guide! I'm so proud of her.
At some level, we’ve all had experiences or signs where we have connected to our deceased loved ones. Whether it was from a gentle touch to lights flickering or seeing numbers in patterns, and even having a bird or an animal join you - we’ve all experienced something.
In this article, I would like to share my story of how I connected with my Nonno when he passed so that it might be able to help you on your journey. I know that this is a delicate subject for many of us, but that’s why this article is so important.
Remember, we are all energy beings, and energy can not be destroyed.
When my Nonno passed, he lived in Canada, and I was far away in Los Angeles. He had been diagnosed with cancer and was fighting it for a few years. I tried to visit as often as I could, each time hoping it wasn’t the last. But then I got the phone call; he was going. I couldn’t get there fast enough. I remember feeling helpless and not knowing what to do.
Then I heard the phone ring again, and I knew it was too late. I felt my body go limp. I sat in front of my fireplace, closed my eyes, and used every gift, every ritual, every guide to help me find my Nonno on the other side. I flew around in the darkness like a panicked mother looking for her lost child in a crowded mall. I needed to find him, and I wasn’t giving up. Instead, I focused on building up my energy - my frequency - to connect to this new realm that he was in.
It was all happening so fast, but somehow, I felt like I knew what I was doing. I could even sense other beings around me, but I just kept going. I held his image close to my heart, and I called for him within my mind.
Nonno!! , I yelled, his name.
Nonno Pasquale where are you?
I kept flying faster and harder. That’s the only way I can describe it.
I didn’t get to say goodbye, I thought… I love you so much
Where are you? I yelled again.
And then, just like that, I felt him; his presence was loud and clear and all around me. I burst out into tears. It was like the first time he picked me up from kindergarten. I was so relieved that I had found him.
“I found you!” I thought. “I found you.”
I hugged him in my mind’s eye. I had the urge to run to my stereo, and I started to play a Pavarotti song that he loved. I got up and danced with him in my arms. I laughed at the fact that he finally came to LA and visited me. It was truly magnificent.
As I enjoyed dancing with him with giant tears in my eyes, I could feel it was time for him to leave. So I asked him if he could leave me a sign that this happened, and I didn’t just make it up. Well, the next day, on the same spot where we were dancing, it looked like someone had just poured a glass of red wine all over my wooden floor.
My Nonno loved his wine.
I ran upstairs to ask my husband if he had spilled anything on the floor.
“Nothing,” he said.
As I bolted back across our hallway, about ten birds started smacking against the windows. I admit. I was freaking out, and I wanted to know where the spillage came from. But, unfortunately, my husband was still asleep and knew nothing about it. So I grabbed my pillow and squeezed it, thanking my Nonno for visiting me and leaving an unequivocal message.
Don't feel like reading the whole blog? Watch my video on how I connected with my Nonna after he had passed.
For some reason, this cosmic jump that I had done opened me up to all kinds of doorways. My psychic gifts took off after that. I began to read others’ minds, but it seemed more like channeling now.
I could read the energy around people.
I could tell if I picked up an energetic hitchhiker.
The energy was seriously off the charts for me. Slowly, I visualized myself closing windows to these different realms when I didn’t want to be as open as I was. This experience had really opened my eyes and third eye to so many possibilities.
I wanted to share this story to let you know that your loved ones are close by.
I would love to hear your story or experience with a deceased loved one in the comments. And if you would like to try and connect with a deceased loved one, I put together a guided meditation for my mystical members to help you through the process.
Remember, you are a light being, having a human experience.
Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco: Your Mystical Guide.
Recap on how I connected to my Nonno
Tarot cards, Oracle cards, Fairy cards, Healing cards, Playing cards, whichever type of cards you want to play with, it’s essential for you first to learn how to prepare yourself energetically before your reading.
This practice will give you such a strong foundation and head-start in this fantastic field. In this episode, I will share some powerful tips to get you started to gain the confidence you need.
Years and years ago, when I first started playing around with tarot cards, I was drawn in by the art. If the deck had incredible images, I wanted it!! I didn't even know if I was going to use the deck -- I was simply inspired. And before I knew it, I had filled my shelves with all sorts of tarot decks.
But what I found interesting was that I lacked trust in using these divination tools.
It didn’t matter how many decks I pulled out that told me the exact same message over and over again - I just didn’t believe it. I constantly doubted myself. And when I did a reading for a friend, I felt shy and insecure about sharing the download I was getting. I wasn’t sure if the messages were my mind, from my ego, or just my thoughts giving this advice. I was overwhelmed.
In this post, I will share some tips and tricks to get you ready to perform a tarot reading, so you don’t have to experience what I did. This way, you can start to get out of your own way. Once you begin to get this practice down, it will give you the confidence to trust yourself and your process.
Also, if you are interested in a step-by-step guide to teach you tarot card reading, I created a detailed course for my mystical members. In the course videos, I lay out all the steps that are easy for you to follow. Because if you are anything like me, I like bite sizes. Just spoon-feed me, please! You can go at your own pace or dart around to the different sections that excite you. I broke down each card’s meaning and created printable worksheets for you too! I also have diagrams with step-by-step instructions on how to layout the cards.
I’m talking step by step here!
Soon you’ll have the confidence to start reading and trusting your process. I’m also going to do live workshops with my members so that you can practice in a safe, loving environment, with like-minded people, because we all need our peeps!
Now, I do have to warn you -- this work will ignite your other gifts -- your superpowers, your clairs, even your healing skills are going to get stronger. All right, I’m getting a little too excited again.
Let’s get back to getting you ready to read tarot cards. Here are a few tips.
Don't want to read an entire blog post? Watch this video to learn how to prepare yourself before you start using Tarot Cards for yourself or your friends.
First, you're going to want to find a time and a place where you can practice these techniques with no one up in your grill. Cause once you tap into this incredible high frequency, you're going to be a magnet, especially if you have kids.
On a side note, if you do have kids, and they are going to be around. All I have to say is, “Hey guys! I’m gonna be up in the laundry room if you need me. Come on up and help me fold clothes if you’re not busy.”
( OK, that tip, that’s bonus material. You’re welcome.)
Let the universe know that you want to do a reading. This not only helps you to create the space, but it also helps you to access your mystical side. With your intention set, you are making it clear to your DNA, to your body, to your mind, and your spirit that you are shifting gears.
You can also use one of my favorite acting tools: externals. Externals are a simple tool that helps you to shift your “leading centers” so that you begin to move in new ways. Leading Centers are those parts of your body that you use to first engage with your environment. Externals are a fun one to play around with. To make it simple, become aware of what part of your body crosses an imaginary line first. For example, when you walk, is it your forehead, your knees, or your hips? Once you know, then try something new. It will help you to bring in a new energy. Then ask yourself, “how does this new part of you sit?” Next, try sitting in a particular position that elicits this part of you. Then use the same position every time you read, you’re letting your body learn when I sit here, or in this position, I allow this new energy to come through and do my readings.
Listen to that voice that you use when you're uplifting and supporting your friends. Let yourself know that you are doing a great job! And that you are worthy of this high-frequency vibration that is full of knowledge and love!
Meditation is a wonderful tool to help access this energy and clear your mind of crappy thoughts. If you want some help, I have plenty on my website, from guided meditations to sound frequencies. Again, do what resonates with you.
Give yourself at least 25 minutes to prepare your energy field before a reading.
I suggest grounding, then centering yourself. You’re getting the energy flowing in all your chakras, especially your heart and third eye. Last but not least, surround yourself with white light. You can use a Mantra, thanking your guides for helping you to open up and connect to this incredible frequency. If you need help, you can watch my other videos or go to my website.
This is where you want to create a reading screen for yourself. I like to tap into my Alta Major chakra, which is at the back of your head at the base of your skull, as well as my third eye for this tip.
Just writing about it, I can feel the back of my head tingling, and this time it’s not because I left my vibrator under my pillow.
So first, I create a screen at the back of my brain, like a mini tv. Then I bring energy into my screen and ground it. It’s like you're plugging it in. Now I’ve created a space where I can see my downloads. Again, it’s like I’m watching tv.
It’s essential to set your boundaries before a tarot reading so you know where your energy ends and where your client’s energy begins. Sometimes even before I shuffle the cards, I will start to get downloads of information. Then when I see the cards, it all makes sense.
So I hope that these tips can help you gain the confidence you need to trust your process. And if you would like to have me guide you through this process, become a member today and join my mystical circle. You won’t regret it!
Remember, you're not your body
You're not your thoughts
You are light
Until next time,
I’m Marisa Grieco, Your Mystical Guide.
Let’s talk about channeling.
For me, I realized I had begun channeling years ago when I was working with a friend. Understand that channeling is not that thing you see in the movies where someone gets possessed by an entity and starts climbing the walls. Believe me, I’ve tried.
It’s not like that at all.
For me, when a friend and I were discussing a problem that he or she had, I would pause, take a deep breath, release any tension, and then I would begin sharing what I was thinking about their issue.
I thought it was all me.
My energy was calm and caring, but the minute they interrupted me and started talking, I would suddenly come out of my trance. The weird part was, I couldn't repeat what I had just told my friend. It was like I forgot what I had said.
That was always awkward for me. I used to think,
“How can I forget something so fast?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
But now, after all this work, I realize that the information came through me for my friend. The message wasn’t meant for me, that’s why I couldn’t remember it.
I believe this is where the saying, “just get out of your own way” comes into play. Not that I had a choice. I don’t let my logical mind fight it. I set my ego aside and channel the information. Whether it’s your higher self coming through, or a spiritual guide, or angel, or whatever you want to label it; don't have it go through the logical limited mind and just open up the floodgates to let the good come through.
When we are open like this, we can download such amazing information.
But how do you know if it’s your logical mind or something else?
This is where discernment comes in. You may want to unlock this superpower so badly, but you have to be honest with yourself and know when your ego is talking.
One way that I can tell when my advice is coming from my limited mind, or my ego, is when the information gets filtered through all my old programs. Or, the information feels bumpy, forced, and slow. It kind of feels like it’s not coming from a clear place.
For example, if you have a friend that wants relationship advice but she goes to a friend that is constantly in bad relationships, then the advice she receives will be very different from someone that has been in a long-term, loving relationship. In fact, both friends, if they don’t step aside from their ego, can taint the information as they filter it through their own experiences.
As with everything I do on this site and my channel, it’s all about gaining awareness. Awareness of what you're already doing but may not understand it. With this awareness, you can start to own and use your own gifts. There is nothing to fear here, we’re just turning the lights on.
So what the heck is channeling?
The art of channeling has been used since ancient times. There are stories of shamans, witches, oracles, connecting to higher levels of energy. But really, anyone can channel, and I’m going to show you how.
Channeling is about opening yourself, your mind, and your heart up to higher levels of energy to let it convey through you.
Before you start channeling, let me share how I discovered what channeling truly is and some tips that helped me get better at it.
Watch the video instead of reading the blog if you like!
It’s not to be confused with mediumship. With mediumship, you’re acting as more of a translator and you often don’t let them take over your body. It’s more like you're an interpreter - whereas when you’re channeling, you’re allowing an energetic being to take over your body. It’s kind of like you move to the side and let them take center stage.
Remember, it’s your body so you are always in charge of who can come in and how long they can stay.
Some of these beings can be spirits, angels, archangels, even a guide. Now, discernment is important once again. So, if it doesn't feel good to you, you don’t have to let it in. Just like you wouldn’t let a creepy stranger into your house, you don’t have to let them in your body. The power is always within you.
Channeling. This is not a sex-ed class.
Slowly raise your frequency and meet with the vibrations of the spirit, angel, or whichever higher being that you sense. When that link is made, you may try channeling!
Easy, huh? 😉
Wait there’s more.
You might allow this being to speak through you or you may convey what you are witnessing. You might experience automatic writing or drawing. Maybe this being wants to play an instrument or dance. It really depends on what you're comfortable with.
The cool thing for me is that I get to experience something new. It’s like looking at life with a new pair of glasses on, helping to take you out of that automatic one way of being.
Next is Trance channeling, but I’ll save that for another blog and video for my mystical members. IF you want to dive deeper into this them become a member, you won’t regret it. I guarantee it!
So these are just some suggestions to get you started with channeling. It’s exactly how I did it.
Remember, to be patient with yourself and have fun. You want to keep your energy bright and light. You may actually learn that you’ve been channeling energies all along. Whether that’s while you're at work, or in difficult situations, coming up with ideas, maybe creativity just flows through you, like writing music. Again, there is nothing to fear. You're just waking up to what’s already happening, and giving you the awareness to say no to a lower frequency.
And remember, you are not your body, you are not your emotions, you are light!
Until next time,
I’m Marisa Grieco Your Mystical Guide
This post is all about learning how to use divination tools. From pendulums to tarot cards, we will go over what they are and how they can assist you in tapping into your superpowers.
When I first started this journey many years ago, I was attracted to learning and having anything mystical. I bought crystals, wands, feathers, staffs, rattles, drums, pendulums, tarot decks--anything that I thought would bring me closer to this invisible veil. Anytime I could travel, I would meet with a shaman, a medicine woman or man, a healer, a psychic, a mystic, or even a mambo. I wanted to learn how they tapped into the quantum field. What was their secret? What were the most used divination tools?
To my surprise, some just used household items, while others had purchased or made extravagant tools. It didn’t seem to matter though. They all seemed to work. Why? Intention, belief, focus, and power.
This is the most important formula when using your divination tools. Not how much they cost, or where you got them from. The power is within you. To find the tool that gets you excited, and have fun exploring. I’m going to list a few just to get your feet wet. If you want to learn more you can always pop over to my website.
There are so many different divination tools out there. I know I bought them all but you don't have to. Join me as I share how I selected what was best for my practice.
What the heck are Divination tools?
That’s right...I called them tools because that's what they are.
Just like a carpenter uses his hammer, or a plumber uses a wrench, Mystics use divination tools. These are just different ways to help you feel confident in expressing what you are already picking up. Remember the real magic is inside of you.
PRO TIP: Create a sacred space, have a ceremony or a ritual--this will help you transition from your muggle self into a wizard.
I need my ritual to help me transition. If I don’t, it feels like I’m going to work in my pajamas. I need that time to transition and bring out my higher mystical pants--I mean parts.
When you first begin your journey, you may feel drawn or connected to using certain tools. From pendulums, runes, tea leaves, tarot cards, your Nonnas holy water, or her collection of saint cards. Do you remember which card helps you to find lost things? ( It’s Saint Anthony - do I look new to you. 🙂 Some people collect hockey cards. My nonna had her saints. Now, you can see there are many, many more divination tools and we'll look at some of these in our post. You may find that you’re more gifted in one method than another. Use what works best for you and your abilities. And remember, be kind with yourself just like with any other skill set, this is gonna take some practice.
This is probably one of the easiest tools to use. It's a simple matter of asking "Yes" or "No" questions and receiving answers. The message you receive depends on how the pendulum swings. The trick is learning to ask the right questions.
Now, when you first get your pendulum, you can train it to show you what each direction means. You can also do this by creating a chart, or by asking your pendulum to show you. For me, I like “yes” to swing forward and backward, and “no” to be side to side. I also do clockwise for “yes” and counterclockwise for “no”.
I will sometimes use my pendulum during a tarot reading to double-check if a card is correct. I place my pendulum over the cards and if I get a no I’ll pull the card and get another one.
My dad would make his own pendulum using just a needle and thread. This was the divination tool that he would use when someone was pregnant in order to find out the sex of the baby. He would put the needle in front of the belly and watch the way it would swing. From there he would declare the sex. The cool thing is he was always right. I loved watching him do it.
It’s been said the Runes are actually one of the oldest divination tools, dating all the way back to 800 A.D. There are 24 runes, each with a related letter of the runic alphabet, with different meanings depending on the way they are cast. I like to use one rune at a time just to keep things simple. First, I settle my mind, then I ask my question -- clean and clear. I’ll pop my hand in my magic pouch and pull out a rune. Then I look up the meaning. When you buy a set it usually comes with a little booklet. Or, if you’re a member, I have a beautiful printout for you on my website.
Reading tea leaves has been around since the 17th century. I personally don’t read tea leaves, but in the past, I’ve gone to see European mystics that use this as their divination tool. I really enjoyed the whole ceremony of reading tea leaves. I mean, I get to drink something and have my future read. It’s a win-win.
The reader makes a cup of tea, pours out the extra liquid, and turns the cup upside down to read what she sees.
I’ll often use tarot cards before a healing session with a client to give me an idea of what’s happening in their life. I use them more as a guideline map instead of a prediction or a fixed future. I believe It’s something that can be changed, especially after an energy healing. You're upgrading your energetic blueprint. For example, If you feel like you are only worthy of crappy relationships then that’s what your cards are going to keep saying. And that's what you're going to keep doing until YOU change.
Now the easy way to get started with the tarot is having fun! Let loose, bring out your intuition.
Hold your deck of cards in your hand, ask your question, and trust your superpowers (a.k.a. your psychic gifts). Place the cards in front of you, then scan the cards with the palm of your hand. Notice if you have any tingling in your palm, or perhaps you get chills. That’s your clairs working. Pull that card and see if the message resonates with you. You can look up the meaning or use your intuition and see what you pick up for yourself.
Now, there are a lot of different styles of decks. Again, pick the one that resonates with you. When you first start out I do recommend the Rider Waite deck of cards. The Tarot deck is usually made up of 78 cards, You have the major arcana and the minor arcana. That includes four suits, they are the wands, swords, cups, and coins or pentacles.
It can be pretty overwhelming when you're first starting out. So I put together a mini-course to help you learn in a fun and easy way. Remember, work at your own pace.
Now there are many divination tools. I enjoy these ones but find the ones that light you up. Remember the answers are already within you, so don’t get caught up in feeling like you have to memorize everything when you start. These are just tools to unlock your gifts and give you the extra confidence to get them out.
Remember you are not your thoughts, you are not your emotions, you are light. So, stay bright!
Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco, your Mystical Guide.
Brainwaves. We hear about them a lot, but why are they so important? I
mean, besides proving to people that we're still alive.
They're important to us because our thoughts and intentions control the frequency our brains transmit. By changing our thoughts and focusing our intentions, we can adjust our brain waves and live happier lives.
First, it's important to know that brain waves basically prove the electrical activity generated by your brain. Yep, it's all electrical and chemical, but that's another blog. When a group of neurons in your brain sends a burst of electrical pulses to another set of neurons in your brain, this activity creates a wave-like pattern.
We measure these brain waves in speed cycles per second. We call these Hertz. Depending on how awake and alert you are, these brain waves might be very fast, or they might be very slow. And your brain waves change based on what you think, how you feel, and what activity you are performing.
For example, most people's brains are running in the frequency range of 14-30hz. This is basically thinking, overthinking, and generally figuring shit out.
This state of your brain is known as BETA.
Some people pride themselves for being very good at this frequency. They think they are being productive worrying about things and then figuring all their crap out. But, if you want to kick open the door to your superpowers, then you need to shift your frequency.
Well, what if I told you that your brain is just stuck at a particular frequency, and you can change the channel just like that? Remember, your body is helping to stay that way because it's addicted to the chemistry, so this isn't going to be easy. Being locked in a frequency is great when you're flying high, but it totally sucks when we hit rock bottom.
I don't know about you, but I can feel like a broken record sometimes. When I'm in a good space around great people, I can feel excited and courageous to do something new. But the minute I'm by myself again, alone with my own thoughts. I start dragging down my frequency, I can feel myself slipping backward.
Well, I'm not playing that loop anymore. That story has ended and it's time for me to wake up. I don't want to be on my deathbed saying,
“Ok, I'm ready to live now.”
"Oh, but it's too late, Ma'am.”
“But I had big plans, I just didn't want to upset anyone, or I was afraid, or I felt like I wasn't good enough, or what if no one likes me once I show them who I really am.”
Now, I'm all alone playing that old record that did not serve me in my lifetime. Too late.
So, let's let our emotions take the back seat for this episode and let science drive.
Why? Cause it's time for us sensitive types to take a more objective look at what's happening so we can help each other snap out of this trance.
Most of us are unaware that we are living in survival mode: feeling worried, fearful, angry, and distrustful most of the time. This is high beta, it's between 22-50 hertz. This state is great if you are being chased by a lion and you need to move fast, but when we humans remain in this state for long periods of time without any physical activity to burn off this energy, it'll become a source of stress, anxiety, pain, and suffering and over time it will create an imbalance in your body.
(I thought that was just being an Italian--kidding, then I would have
mentioned hungry and judgmental too.)
When we are in survival mode, in this high beta range, there is no space or time for change. Our brain is on high alert. And it is not good for us. Not good at all. This is where meditation, rituals, exercise, sound healing, and healthy eating come in so we can readjust the frequency of our brain and give our bodies a break.
So, what do you do?
Well first off, meditation is a perfect way to change the frequency of your brain. If you need a reason to meditate, this is the big one. I guarantee you this will change your brain frequency and move you out of High Beta.
Take a moment to watch my video here about how Brain waves can affect your mood, your emotions, and your life. Join me as I explain how they work and how you can affect them to make a difference in your life.
Here’s a link to some meditations to move you out of beta and into alpha. Go Here
Depending on what your goal is, you can reach for different brain waves like Delta, Theta, Alpha, and my favorite Gamma. I break all of these states down in my mini-course on brain waves.
But it’s important to remember that most of us are stuck in the stressful, anxiety-ridden state of High beta. You gotta get out of that. It’s your ticket to happiness and a better you. The frequency of your brain determines your productivity, your creativity, and your superpowers.
By understanding our brain waves we can look at ourselves more objectively and start to realize we can grow and change. Until next time I’m Marisa Grieco, your Mystical Guide.
You might have heard me talking about cords or tentacles in my other blogs. I’m not talking about power cords, or octopus, octupses? Octopies? Who knows how to spell them. No, I’m referring to the way we tap into each other, energetically. This is very natural, and we do it all the time. In fact, this is how some of us get our information about each other.
As a mom, I can easily tap into my daughters and experience how they are feeling. Some of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. But the problems begin when you forget to take your cords out of someone and return to your own center. Or, you don’t realize that you have even been corded!
This is where shit goes wrong.
In this blog, we’re going to learn how to identify these leftover cords and how to release them before they start hurting and depleting your own energetic field.
Have you ever had the experience where you are just chillin’ and suddenly you get this surge of energy or a surge of pain out of nowhere? This is often followed by a strong emotion. Well, you’re not crazy, and once you identify it’s not a heart attack, it may be that someone just plugged into your energy field or they just activated the cord that was already tethered to you. I see this all the time with my clients who are stuck in controlling relationships either with a loved one or a family member.
Now before you get your panties in a knot, I want you to know that these cords are simply invisible strands of energy that connect you to other people, places, and things. These cords are not part of your own conscious mind but exist at the subconscious and unconscious levels.
You can’t see them with your physical eyes, obviously, but they affect your life just the same. So, if you’re very sympathetic towards people, you’re likely cording them all the time. The problem is that when you do this, you may feel responsible for their needs. You are drawn into their concerns, and your energy will start to match theirs. This can really make you feel confused and even spun out because you’re picking up someone else’s life lessons, messages, and emotions.
And they won’t make any sense to you because they’re not yours!
You have no context for them, but they feel real just the same. That’s why you want to gently remove them once you get the information you were looking for. Don’t just walk away when you’re still plugged in!
Now some cords are positive and feel good. It’s the way we connect with our loved ones.
If you are in a romantic relationship with someone you may find that you are connected to the heart and sacral chakras.
You know, love and sex.
A parent may cord their children in their root chakra to help them survive. Even your pets can cord you. Letting you know when they’re hungry, or it’s time for you to come home and let them out.
Mine does it at two in the morning. I might buy a box of Depends for the damn dog.
But it’s when these cords become sticky, tangled, and filled with negative intent, that they can start to hurt you. They make you feel depleted, confused, even controlled. But understand, no one can put a cord into your field without your consent.
This is the hard part to understand.
At some level, you are willing to give them permission. If it feels negative and heavy, and you let it happen, it’s probably tied to an old program or belief that you are holding on to. For example, if you’re letting your partner control you, then you may be fulfilling an old belief that loved ones are allowed to do this. Maybe this was an agreement you made with one of your parents or you saw them make this agreement with each other. Jump to your current self and you may find out that you accepted this cord from your partner because of this old belief system.
The farther you travel on your healing journey, the more you’ll realize that you no longer want some of these cords in your field, especially if they are making you feel sick, heavy, and tired.
We can’t just cut these cords because, in the energetic realm, you’ll start to look like a wounded octopus with all these tentacles flailing about your field leaking your vital energy. Instead, we want to gently retract the cords keeping your energy intact.
So how do we do this? I like to use visualization when I’m meditating to clear these cords out of my energy. Visualizations are very powerful in self-healing. I set my intention to "de-cord" myself from others whenever I feel drained and depleted.
I want to call back all my energy clean and clear.
Watch my video about removing energetic cords. Learn how to identify, locate and remove these cords and live a happier life.
When I do this, sometimes a person’s face pops up into my mind’s eye. I take this as a sign that this person has a cord in me. If it feels good, I leave it in. If not, I remove it. If no one pops up, I often find a cord by scanning my body along my chakras using my hand.
People say that the first five chakras are the ones that get corded the most. That makes sense because they’re connected to your survival, sexual energy, power, love, and self-expression.
If you find that you have problems with your personal boundaries, that may mean that your eighth chakra has been corded by someone.
Anyway, back to the de-cording.
While I’m slowly running my hands along my chakras, I’m looking for any sensation of temperature differences. If I feel this, it tells me I have some work to do - at that point. It might not be a temperature change. It can also feel like a denseness or even a tingle in your hand. This tells me I found a cord.
Now the cord can feel thick and coarse or thin and wispy, it doesn’t matter-- but like roots from a tree, some can be deep and tricky to remove.
Now, remember you’re not cutting it or yanking it out. Instead, energetically begin to visualize twisting the cord at the level of your skin, almost playing with, twirling it, moving it from side to side, giving it room to slip out, tugging ever so gently when you feel it start to give.
Once it slides out, I visualize tying a knot at the end of the cord and sending it back to its owner. Then I place my hand over the spot where the cord once was and I visualize gold light soothing and healing the wound.
Sometimes it can be tougher than that to remove a cord. If you’re having trouble I have more tips and exercises in my membership that can help you, so feel free to head over there.
Now depending on which chakra has been corded, it can tell you a lot about your relationship with this person. If someone is not being authentically loving in a relationship, you may find that the energetic cord goes into the heart chakra down along the spine and is grounded in your solar plexus.
Your power center.
This is someone that manipulates love and power, and I see this a lot with my clients. The partner strengthens the cord by saying things like, “if you do this or act this way I will love you”. You may even feel your stomach tighten when they are around you.
I’ve seen cords enter one place and go all the way to your sacral chakra cutting off your creativity or blocking your sexual energy.
Once again, these are just a few examples and tips to open up your awareness of the energetic cords. If you would like to know more check out my guided meditations to help you, and maybe some worksheets too. I hope some of this makes you realize you are so much more than your physical body and that all those feelings and messages that you’re picking up, may not even be yours.
Until next time, I’m Marisa Grieco Your Mystical Guide
We can see physical boundaries everywhere in life: this is my country, this is my house, this is my side of the bed, that’s my vibrator. You get the idea, but we never really talk about our spiritual boundaries, our energetic boundaries or what I like to think of as our little “cocoon”. Heck, most of us didn’t even know that this space existed, let alone that we are in control of this space. That’s where the power lies.
In this post, we are going to learn what your spiritual boundary is and how to create one. So let’s get started.
Before doing this work, I had no concept of boundaries-- heck I’m Italian, we all function and live in a giant bowl of soup. Minestrone soup. We feel, sense, and predict most people and most things that orbit around us. The only time I think anyone had a boundary in my family was if they were pissed off. Then all walls were up and no one was getting in -- or out. Until dinner time, because well, you know, then we’re all in our happy place... and who wants to waste an incredible meal in a shitty mood?!
In some ways living this way feels very fulfilling because you are never alone, but that’s not always a good thing. It was especially satisfying when everyone was hanging out, having a good time - laughing, telling jokes, playing cards, gossiping, and of course, planning our next meal.
But like the tide of life, it’s not always high. You see, the thing is, when you're all open and acting as part of one big soup, everyone feels it when one of them goes down -- when someone starts to sink to the bottom of the bowl. And that’s where things get ugly. No one likes to be pulled down from their happy place. This is when creating healthy energetic spiritual boundaries can really help your own emotional state. In fact, I find it even more powerful and fulfilling. Because you can finally start to be yourself and be in the middle of this bowl of soup. Like a nice chunk of potato or a hearty carrot. There’s no need to end up as much on the bottom. We want to be more like minestrone and less like split peas… Alright, enough with the soup metaphors!
Take a moment to watch my video here about Boundaries You Didn’t Know You Needed.. I share tips as well as my experiences in a short video. (Just in case your get tired of reading 🙂
So how do we create a spiritual boundary and maintain our autonomy?
First, you want to become familiar with our own energy.
So sit down, focus on your breath and take your time here.
Relax and release any tension in and around your body. Meditating is best for this so you can become familiar with your own frequency. You need to recognize normal when you feel it so you can hang on to it. Notice any sensation around you. If your eyes are closed you may see a frequency, or feel a tingling. Now take a quick scan to see if anyone’s energy is in your field.
Start from the bottoms of your feet moving along your spine checking in with each chakra.
Now, if you notice other people's energy in there, you want to purge that.
I’ll check in with my Root chakra which is at the base of my spine between my legs. As I bring my consciousness into this space I look around to see what pops up, again no judgement and don’t worry about if this is real or just my imagination. Let’s say I get a vision of my neighbour between my legs (Wait, that was my dream last night) They're not supposed to be there! To purge this energy, I can imagine that she, or he, is the color grey and visualize this grey color leaving my energetic field.
Now, I repeat this process with all my chakras.
Once I’m clear, once I start to feel a little lighter and brighter… I bring in more of my own energy.
Again I do this by imagining white light coming in through the top of my head until I feel full and bright. I imagine my aura, my cocoon, as a beautiful golden container. Now, I create an item just outside of my field so I can visualize where my energy ends and someone else's begins…
I like to think of it as a boundary instead of protection because believing I need protection makes me feel like I should be worried about people intentionally trying to hurt me. When I create a strong boundary, I can do it without the fear. I find it’s better than “protection”.
So how did that process feel?
Knowing these boundaries allows you to keep unwanted energies at an arm’s length.
It’s the energy equivalent of saying, “no” which is so hard for some of us to do. When you establish this spiritual boundary it allows you to not get sucked up in gossip, or a friend’s judgey side, or even when the world around you feels very negative. This awareness of your boundary allows you to keep this out and let you have a more fulfilling life experience.
These are just some tips I use to start to activate my spiritual boundaries, but if you want a guided meditation and worksheet to help you to purge old energy, you can find that information on my website and remember all of these are free to anyone with a mystical membership. IF you are not a member, and you should be, there are still free ones for you to try so please check it out.
I hope these tips can start to help you feel safe and cozy in your own energy cocoon.
Remember you are not your thoughts, your emotions, or your body. You are light!
Until next time,
I’m Marisa Grieco, Your mystical guide.