Let’s be real: sometimes life gets overwhelming, and no matter how much self-care or mindfulness we preach, we can still find ourselves spiraling into a cranky mood. Lately, that’s been me. And if you're feeling like crap lately, too, guess what? You're not alone. I’ve been there, and trust me, I’ve got some tricks up my mystical sleeve to help you (and me) break out of that funk!
First off, let’s take a moment to understand why we feel this way. As your Mystical Guide, I'm here to tell you that crankiness isn’t just an emotion; it’s a combination of factors—stress, fatigue, maybe even hormones—that trigger your body's chemical response. It's like our bodies are looking for reasons to reinforce the mood. Whether it’s the holiday rush, work pressures, or just feeling overwhelmed by life, these moods happen to all of us.
Now, let me spill the tea: I’ve been super cranky lately! With my new membership site launch, family stuff, and everything in between, it feels like I’m carrying the world on my shoulders. And instead of taking my own advice, I’ve been riding the wave of self-pity right into Cape Depression. But hey, we’re not here to stay in that space—let's get out of it!
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Step 1: Acknowledge and Accept
First things first, acknowledge how you're feeling without judgment. Yes, it sucks to feel cranky, but guess what? It's totally okay. Just because you're feeling this way doesn’t mean you're failing. Be gentle with yourself and say, “I see you, cranky mood, and I’m choosing to take charge.”
Tip: Grab a journal or a voice note and let out whatever's on your mind. Write or say anything that comes to you. Sometimes just releasing those feelings by getting them out of your head and onto paper (or audio) helps to make you feel a whole lot lighter.
I know it’s hard when you’re stuck in that ‘blah’ feeling, but one of the best ways to shake it off is to get up and get moving. For me, it’s turning on my favorite song (usually something from the 80s!) and dancing it out in my living room. Or maybe you’re into something a little more calming—how about a walk with purpose?
Why it works: Movement gets your energy flowing and helps your body produce serotonin (aka the happy chemical). When serotonin levels rise, cranky moods tend to disappear. So, whether it’s dancing, stretching, or walking, just get that energy moving!
Tip: If dancing feels silly or you can’t get outside, just get up and stretch. Do some light yoga, wiggle around a bit, or even march in place. You’re just one move away from shifting your energy!
One of the sneaky things about cranky moods is that they feed on negative thoughts. It's like your brain is on autopilot, telling you all the things that are going wrong, exaggerating them, and turning them into a personal attack. So how do we stop that?
My go-to technique: Affirmations! Start by catching those negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. My favorite affirmation (and one I use often) is:
"I am light, I am love, I am whole."
I know it sounds simple, but sometimes, the simplest mantras are the most powerful. It interrupts that negativity and brings you back into the present moment. And guess what? The more you say it, the more it sinks in. Try it! Repeat it until it feels true.
Natural sunlight is like nature’s antidepressant. I’m lucky to live in Southern California, where the sun shines most of the year, but even if you don’t, find a way to get some light into your life. If you can't go outside, sit by a window and let the light hit your face. If you live in a rainy or cloudy area, a light therapy lamp can work wonders.
Why it works: Sunlight helps your body produce vitamin D and boosts serotonin levels, which naturally improves your mood.
Tip: Even if it’s gloomy outside, grab a cozy blanket, sit by the window, and imagine you’re on a sunny beach. Visualization can be just as powerful as the real thing!
Let’s be honest—sometimes when we're cranky, our go-to is junk food (hello, pasta and Netflix!). But that’s not really helping, is it? Instead, fuel your body with mood-boosting foods like bananas, nuts, or dark chocolate. You’ll be amazed at how nourishing your body with the right foods can change your outlook.
Also, don’t forget to hydrate! Cranky moods can sneak up on you if you're dehydrated, so grab a glass of water, and keep sipping.
Tip: If supplements are more your thing, consider 5-HTP or St. John’s Wort (but always check with your healthcare provider first). These are known to boost serotonin naturally, helping to lift that mood cloud.
If moving around inside the house isn't cutting it, take things outdoors. Connecting with nature has a magical way of grounding your energy and rebalancing your mood. If you can, go to the beach, the park, or even just step into your backyard.
Why it works: Being in nature reminds us that we’re a part of something bigger, and it helps calm the nervous system. Even a few minutes outside can reset your cranky mood.
Tip: Can’t get outside? Bring nature in! Add some houseplants, open a window, or listen to nature sounds on your phone. You’ll be surprised at how quickly it changes your mood.
I know, who needs convincing to get a massage? But seriously, it works! A massage helps increase serotonin and dopamine levels while reducing cortisol (the stress hormone). It’s like hitting the reset button on your body.
If you can’t get to a massage therapist, try some self-massage techniques or use a foam roller to release tension in your body.
Tip: Get out that essential oil diffuser while you’re at it. Scents like lavender, citrus, or eucalyptus can be mood-lifters, giving you a full sensory experience to help shift your energy.
I know, laughing when you're in a cranky mood sounds impossible, but give it a try! Watch a funny movie, scroll through some silly memes, or call a friend who always makes you laugh. Laughter really is the best medicine.
Tip: Don’t have time for a full movie? Watch a quick YouTube video or funny clips. Even just a few minutes of laughter can shift your mood entirely.
Finally, remember this: you are not your cranky mood. Moods come and go, and they don’t define you. Repeat after me: “I am not my thoughts, I am not my emotions, I am light, I am love.”
When you distance yourself from your mood, you give yourself the power to change it. Be gentle with yourself, and know that this, too, shall pass.
We all get cranky sometimes. It’s part of being human. But the next time you’re feeling down, I hope these tips help you shift your mood and get back to feeling like the shiny, bright light you are. And remember, you're not alone! If you need more support or want to share your experiences, join my mystical circle.
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